Be good to your daughters…
Today on The Blog Up North I want to write about something I know nothing about.
“So what’s new?” you cry.
I hear ya.
The subject of the song is a simple one. It is a lament for a girl the singer loves but who won’t allow him near because of her past, particularly the estrangement of her father. The chorus sums up the singers sentiments:
Fathers be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers be good to your daughters too…
Daughters. Personally I have none. Nor have I ever been one. There are times when I thank my own personal god in both cases. The lyrics seemingly contend that the future of the world rests on women. Damage them, the theory goes, and you damage the whole fabric.
Conversely, be good to them and they will carry what you teach them, either consciously or sub-consciously, through their lives, and will in turn pass it on to their daughters. Is this true? Or do you learn the lessons and then go do the opposite?
Is it rocket science?
As for us boys, well, as the song continues, “…boys will be strong and boys soldier on…”, as though we are perhaps inefficiently designed but reliable machines; we could be improved upon but we do the trick with stoicism and unswerving purpose. This, of course, isn’t true of every boy or man.
While I know about being a son and having sons, I have gaps in my knowledge as broad and as murky as the Ganges when it comes to daughters. So it is over to you…
If you are a daughter, what did you learn from your father or mother, positive and negative?
If you have daughters, what lessons have you passed/will you pass onto them?
Do you see something in yourself which you recognise as an inherent (unlearned) trait from your parents?
This is getting the full on meme treatment. I’m tagging:
Tara at Sticky Fingers
Kate at The Five Fs
Dara at Readily A Parent
Abby at Pantsbum (first ever meme on a fledgling blog so please visit)
Kirsty at Gone Bananas
Rules: Nick the badge above, mention the blogger who tagged you (ie me), do the post and tag some more lovely bloggers if you know any.
If you haven’t been tagged, I still would like to know what your experiences of daughterhood are. Leave a comment below, or if you have blogged on the subject before, post a link.